Wednesday, January 16, 2008

Not OK!

Have you heard the song "STAY" by Sugarland? It was written soley by the singer Jennifer Nettles. She has a really interesting, amazing voice. I like MOST of their songs. In fact, one of their songs-Just Might (Make Me Believe) -was my life anthem just a few years ago. But this song. As pretty as it sounds...The MEANING behind the words! UGH
It's about the women who is sleeping with a MARRIED man. It's from the other women's perspective. So everyone in country music is just raving about this song right now. How wonderful it sounds. How meaningful. How heartfelt.
I will never understand why songs, books, movies, that portray CHEATING in such a way that makes it seem OK or UNDERSTANDABLE! It is NEVER ok! There is NO excuse!
Am I wrong?


StepheLynne said...

Is he married? Or just dating two people? I've heard the song but I haven't caught ALL the lyrics. Neither situation is good, or acceptable. From what I remember, at the beginning she's wanting the guy to stay with her and then at the end she's saying stay wherever else he is, right? I think that's what people like about it. They can understand the heartache of not being able to really have the person you really want, and cheer her on when she decides she's too good for him anyway. Or something like that...hahaha! Please let me know if I'm WAY off!

Cheeziemommie said...

Hmm now I need to go read the lyrics again :)

Cheeziemommie said...

Here's a quote from the songwriter
"Even though the person who is cheating might think he or she is getting away with something, they know they aren't living their highest truth," she says. "And they wouldn't be in the situation if they were just happy-go-lucky in the first place. Nobody is happy in this situation."
I dunno I just think there is something to be said about commitment and loyalty? If you cared enough about someone to marry them at one point then can you just find the slightest bit of decency to break it off with them BEFORE or at least shortly after you cheat on them? I just don't think it's right for these kinds of situations to be so glorified by Hollywood and such.

Colleen Sherman said...

I haven't heard the song but I TOTALLY agree about how pop culture makes cheating "ok" in some of their songs and movies. I have a hard time watching a movie that portrays cheating as acceptable. Like when the husband is cheating on his wife... but the wife is portrayed a raging B***h. They are making the audience accept the cheating b/c the wife "deserves it." I hate that. Nobody deservs it. Oh... Like in Spanglish. Other than that part of the story, I really did like the movie... but I had a hard time w/ how close Adam Sandler's character got to the housekeeper and that they did kiss... even though he ends up going back to his wife. He still cheated.

Cosmo Mom said...

word! i agree with you friend. But sadly that's Hollywood. Even main stream TV sells the wrong message about relationships. Show's that i LOVE, and most of the time just watch for entertainment value and don't "read" into it. Think of friends? They were always sleeping around.

Scott and Lorie said...

Yeah I agree, I hate how after watching grey's anatomy I end up cheering when the guy ends up leaving his wife for his gf.

I happened to see the Stay video today...pretty powerful. I'm impressed by anyone who's not an actor who can bust out tears on command.

I do have to say, when I first heard the song I liked it a lot because I actually thought it was coming from the wife's perspective. But I think you're right, I think it's the gf.

anywho, really long comment for an introduction=)